My friend Will at Diabetes Mine asked about diabetes stuff and holiday gift giving. He broke possible D-gifts down into Medical gifts (tools and meds), practical gifts (diabetes-related gear, life, or kitchen supplies that aren’t purely medical), and diabetes humor gifts.
In general medical supplies including tools, possibly short of a new iPhone because it really isn't a medical device, aren't gifts. They fail the does this bring joy outside of diabetes test. That test probably should be a guide in all cases short of humor where diabetes should be the butt of the joke. While there are aspects of life with diabetes that are gifts, friendships, discovering personal strength and the like, a disease isn't grounds for a gift - short of, I guess, an instantaneous cure.
Practical life stuff is tough as a gift, diabetes or not. Try giving your spouse a frying pan. That is risky territory as you are likely to get hit upside the head with said pan. Practical gifts should be avoided by all but experts. There is some nuance I would suggest the "Who Benefits?" test. If the frying pan is to make you - the giver - tasty burgers, hold off. So If the item is chore related, it is hard to see it as a gift.
On the other hand if it something the recipient will see as fun in their scope of life then - maybe. Proceed With Caution. For example, I would like a good fry pan, but it would have to be one cool fry pan in my eyes, better for something I want to PLAY with cooking than my existing pans. Since the key word there is play, not practical, possibly this test may invalidate Will's practical gift catagory. I think there are two important considerations in this situation. 1) Did the recipient specifically ask for the item and/or 2) is the item more hobby/joy than chore/work related.
Other stuff disclaimer: There better be other non-chore stuff under the tree and in the stocking.
Can you define any diabetes tool or meds as hobby/joy related? Not a chore? If so you are a ninja and don't need my advice because I can't see it.
Humor is fair game as long as the health condition is the joke not the person with the condition. Just be sure everyone's sense of humor is aligned and see the other stuff disclaimer above. For example, my son gave me a stuffed plush toy prostate after cancer surgery. That was hysterical.
I don't think the rules are much different with kids or adults. Maybe the sensitivity is different. Remember kids are kids. The holidays are BIG for them, and diabetes probably isn't their focus. Why bring it in? On the other hand, you can hurt an adult's feelings too.
As a parent, any diabetes stuff needs to be outside the sibling
balance of gifts, with the possible exceptions of humor. Maybe diabetes humor should be in a balance of other fun poking humor with other kids. Cause if you poke fun at one kid's diabetes and don't poke fun at the other kids' challenges you could have more significant problems than holiday gift giving - you may be a dick.
On the flip side of non-diabetes stocking stuffing, I was never a restrict holiday treats kind of a parent. I was always the guy packing in the Hershey's Miniatures and Reese cups; in my view - it isn't a holiday without them. It is the only time of the year I eat MrGoodbars, and I crave them Christmas morning.
Be sure that there is parity in treat access. If the non-D kids get Hershey's kisses so do the D- kids, with the same freedom of access. Also if Reeses are low cures, from time to time they were here, then the other kids get'm too up to the last 15 carbs worth.
I don't recall any D-gifts. Years ago I put used insulin bottles on a chain of lights. They go in the tree every year. Then I put the bacon ornament right next to them - that is our tradition.
So, Will, my advice is that gifts are for the unique celebration of your family, tradition, and faith. Diabetes chronically sucks. Why bring suckage from any source into your individual celebration? As Bert and Earnie taught us, one of these things is not like the other.
Of course, your diabetes may vary and it can bring gifts - the every cloud has a silver lining type. I see these a the friends that come from connection with the community. We have many, That is the kind of diabetes gift to give.
So to all the lovely friends who help us get through the suckage of diabetes, we wish much joy with your families, revel in your traditions and find peace through your faith. While our holidays may vary, here is hoping our happiness does not.